? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:39pm
Wasn't trying to impress you. Why the negativity? :(
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:41pm
Absolutely can the company deny unemployment. They are the ones who actually sign the papers to agree to it or deny it. I guess you have never been on unemployment.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:41pm
Have you ever been on unemployment?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:42pm

No, they don't deny or grant unemployment but each company is notified (based on my experience, in my state)when a claim is presented that will affect their contributions on behalf of their employees.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:42pm

So, if you were fired today, you would receive a year's comp?


I find that a little hard to believe.....


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Ducky

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:44pm

Ooh! ooh!

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:44pm

You do realize that unemployment is only a fraction of what your income was, right?


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Ducky

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:44pm
Right.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:45pm
That's what I just posted -- oy vey that check is itsy bitsy.
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:45pm

Can you provide support for this claim?


PumpkinAngel

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