? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:45pm

Aren't you married for 12 years?


No


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Ducky

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:47pm
As far as I remember it is the same in NY. The employer pays unemployment insurance for the employees. If a former employee claims, the employer is notified and can contest the claim, on the grounds that the employee was fired for cause.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:48pm
I would most likely get my stock but not sure about severance pay, I doubt that very highly.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:48pm

<Absolutely can the company deny unemployment. They are the ones who actually sign the papers to agree to it or deny it. I guess you have never been on unemployment. >


No I have not had to collect unemployment but my DH has.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:48pm

I have both received unemployment and been on the employer's side .


The employee and the employer each tell the commission what happened.


iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:50pm

There's nothing like an evacuation to make you take stock of what stuff is really important.


Ain't that the truth!


We had a minor incident here a few weeks ago.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:50pm
Yes and after all my medical and dental, 401K, life insurance and daycare comes out of my check, unemployment would be the same as my gross check.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:51pm

According to this website...


http://www.labor.state.ny.us/ui/claimantinfo/hearingfaq.shtm


it doesn't say anything about an employer having the right to agree or disagree to give benefits.


In fact it states that a hearing is held and a judge decides if benefits are denied.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:51pm

Why most likely?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 3:52pm
REALLY?

 

Yes. We. Did.

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