? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:00pm
Yes, good point. There was something similar happening in the town next to ours.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:00pm
No, I have never been unemployed, except at my own choosing.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:03pm
If you get fired, you might not get your stocks. That is the choice of your head manager. If you get layed off or quit, you get them.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:04pm
The most you get in NY State is $405 per week.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:04pm

<No, I have never been unemployed, except at my own choosing.>


Then how could you possible know anything about it?

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:05pm

Unemployment is about the same as your gross check or your net check?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:05pm
No, gross. I WISH I would get the net-lol!!
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:06pm

<If you get fired, you might not get your stocks.>


Now this is strange to me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:06pm

Ah, so you did mean net...not gross.


So you have your net check and now you have to pay medical, dental, childcare and all taxes on that amount....reducing it even more.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:07pm
Never said the place was "impressive". It is a nice town to go to and people come over on the ferry from CT to go shopping and eat at the seafood restaurants.

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