? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:08pm
So, if you were left managing on unemployment how would you pay mortgage, utilities, insurance, food and clothing on 1600 a month?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:09pm

You got it baby!

But luckily like you I can read and comprehend websites (not that I did in this case, lol) and I understand my IRL experiences with others to know that unemployement isn't granted by the ex-employer on a whim.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:09pm
Right now my ds is almost done with daycare so I would probably just take him out for the rest of the year if I decided I could live on unemployment. My dh can get us medical, it just is more than mine is, that is why we don't take his.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:10pm

Can you provide support for that?


Um, if you purchased the stock through a company benefit plan, why are they not your stocks?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:10pm
Absolutely, I know this.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:10pm

"I have no idea why you'd think the term can't be changed thru refinancing.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:10pm
The gross is the amount BEFORE anything is taken out, for taxes, 401, insurance etc.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:11pm

....and childcare.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:11pm
Good job :) LOL.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:12pm
My GROSS check. I would get the maximum they allow.

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