? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:22pm

"Gross" doesn't mean "maximum allowable". It means your income before taxes, pension, etc is taken out.

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The *maximum* unemployment check you could get is $405 a week. So your current job pays $405 a week BEFORE they take out medical, dental, 401K, life insurance, and daycare (assuming you qualify for the maximum unemployment check)?

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:22pm

Almost 14 years.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:23pm
I would take my son out of childcare if this happened anytime before Sept. as he starts kindergarten in Sept.
I wouldn't be doing the basement if I was getting unemployment.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:24pm
Wow.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:25pm
No my check is over $405 AFTER they take out all those things.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:27pm

You realize that you have to actively look for a job in order to receive unemployment?


http://www.labor.state.ny.us/ui/claimantinfo/onceyouhaveappliedfaq.shtm#0


Q: Do I have to look for work while collecting unemployment insurance benefits?

A: Yes, to be eligible for benefits you must be available for work and demonstrate that you are seeking employment while claiming benefits by keeping a written record of your job search. Forms to record your efforts are provided in the “Unemployment Insurance Information for Claimants” handbook mailed to you when you apply. You may be asked to show your work efforts when asked to report to the local Division of Employment Services office.


You also realize that it is fully taxable, so really less than $405/week?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:27pm
Which means that it's not your gross, it's your net.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:28pm
OMG-MY BAD!!!! I am sorry, my mind is in a million different places today!!! My NET is over $405 after all the things taken out. Sorry!!!!! :(
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:28pm

Then it's net, not gross.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:29pm

Okay...then you still have to pay for those things out of your check, making it even less...plus you have to pay taxes as well.


PumpkinAngel

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