? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:29pm
Sorry, I meant my net check is about the same (actually more) as the maximum for unemployment.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:29pm
No, it was my bad that I mistaken gross for net. :(
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:30pm

Why not?

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:30pm
Oh, ok. You said that you waited to have kids and thought it was weird that you thought less than a year was waiting!!! We will be married 15 yrs. this year and my dd will be 10 this year.
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:30pm

Edited because you got what we were saying, LOL. I get brain fuzz, too sometimes. :-)





Edited 3/25/2008 4:32 pm ET by finally.me




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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:31pm

So how would you pay for those expenses then?


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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:32pm

1. Yes, I know I would have to look for a job even though they do not enforce this as my dh's bf is on it now because he gets layed off throughout the year.

2. I do know it is taxed. We could still live on that amount.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:33pm
Yes, sorry. I am doing a million things at one time today!!!
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:33pm

How old were you when you married?

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:34pm
Pay for what things? Medical we would get from my dh's job and I would take my son out of daycare.

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