? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:35pm
We were talking about last resorts yesterday and finishing my basement. Going on unemployment would not be a "last resort" as we could afford to live on that amount.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:35pm
So you r gross check before 401, taxes daycare etc are deducted is around 400 dollars? How much is left after those things are taken out?
iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:35pm
LOL..no prob!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:36pm

You have to keep a written record of your job searches and may be asked to show them.

PumpkinAngel

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:36pm
My dh can get medical at his job.
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:36pm

B/c you think that they don't enforce the rules, you don't have to play by them?


They do enforce it.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:37pm
I was 21 and my dh was 23. Aren't you the same age as me? Wouldn't that make you only 22 when you got married? I think that is still very young. I know my dh since I was 17 and he was 19.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:37pm
Then that is your NET, not your gross.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:38pm
No, my net is over $400.
iVillage Member
Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:39pm
Why would she have to lie? What does having her son out of daycare have to do with being able to search for a job?
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