? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:40pm

How?


If your ins premium goes up, that alone increases your expenses (and in our case, we also had huge medical bills).

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Ducky

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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:40pm
You absolutely know what?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:40pm

Medical, dental 401k and childcare.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:40pm
You are speculating that this is going to happen in the next 5 months. After that, he goes to Kindergarten. If it did, I would be able to get friends and family to watch him if I had to go job searching.
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:41pm

But you will need Daycare to actively search for a job, correct?


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:41pm
I would have less expenses as my dd would not be in camp and after-care if I was home.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:42pm

Nope, I was older than that, and dh was signicantly so.


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Ducky

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:44pm

I asked, I didn't state that she would lie.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:44pm
LOL Tina! You are much better than a Canadian Tire!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:44pm

Some people don't have friends and family that would or could

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Ducky

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