? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:45pm
Here, it would be a problem because you have to state each week that you were able and ready to start work

iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:47pm

If you were home, you would not be receiving u/e.

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Ducky

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:47pm

No, actually you gave that time frame, not me.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:47pm

1. My son only has 5 more months of daycare, if this did happen within this time, I would find friends and family to watch him if I needed to go find a job before he started ft school.

2. I still do need the money from unemployment and it would be about the same I bring home now and I would not have the expense of daycare/after-care and camp.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:47pm
No, I have friends and family that would be able to help me out for awhile. Like I said, my son starts kindergarten in 5 months.
iVillage Member
Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:48pm

....and often at short notice as some job interviews can be, at least ime.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:48pm
Ok, so are you not the same age as me, graduated h.s. in 1989?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:50pm
Okay....but I was speaking of myself and no one else.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:51pm
Do you think people are out Monday-Friday from 9-5 looking for jobs?
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 4:52pm
Sure if it happened before Sept. I am not counting on leaving my job in 5 months time. I just got a raise and a great review.

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