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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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I think that rlgl thinks that she can just take the summer off, sah, live off of her u/e and life will just be peachy.
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Ducky
For several months?
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Ducky
I agree 110% with your post!
I have to be honest, I hate even asking friends/family to watch my kids for a couple hours just to go to dinner with DH, let alone asking them for any large length of time.
How long would your savings last?
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Ducky
I thought you said in a previous post that the reason you carry the insurance is b/c it's more expensive through dh.
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Ducky
We have life insurance already on the side that we would be able to pay for while I was out of work.
I thought you said this was taken out of your check.
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Ducky
If I lost my job, it would probably be pretty darn hard for me to afford daycare. It wouldn't be that I just didn't feel like paying for it. She is going to providing close to full time child care for my nephew starting next fall. For free. Probably for several years.
There are lots of people around here have mothers, sisters, aunts, and cousins who SAH and watch their grandkids (nieces, nephews, cousins, etc.) for little or no money. Especially if the parent(s) are down on their luck and can't afford decent daycare. It's pretty common.
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