? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:15pm

No, I didn't miss that.

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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:16pm

So why are you paying for it then?


That doesn't make any sense.


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Ducky

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:16pm


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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:17pm

Through your job?

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:18pm
The only thing extra would be the medical insurance if we had to pay for that.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:20pm

So lets pretend for just a minute that you wouldn't have to pay it (yeah right, lol).

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:22pm

It's a long story but it wasn't something set in stone and I was afraid that if it didn't work out, we would have a lapse in insurance. If we had an emergency, it probably will be offered again but I am not 100% sure so that is why I said we would probably have to pay for it.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:22pm

I'm assuming that she is searching both to find a job and to qualify for unemployment.

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I think this is where I am ignorant of things. What do you envision a typical full day of job searching to look like?

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:23pm

I guess that makes sense.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:25pm

I pay for it (very, very little per week). It is nice to have but since we have personal life insurance policies already, we wouldn't "need" it and would still have the other policies.

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