? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:26pm

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:27pm
Doesn't her mom live in Florida? And I can't imagine very many people other than close family members would be willing to take on that kind of responsibility.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:27pm

Why is it funny that you wouldn't have to pay for medical? My dh was in a union years ago and we didn't pay at all.


Ok, I think I have explained this a couple of times now and can I ask why you say significantly less when I explained that my income would be almost the same on unemployment

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:28pm

Not sure how my mother got into this-lol!! I said friends and family could watch my son if needed.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:30pm

When my dh was looking for work, he spent a fair amount of time (in our home office) on the

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:31pm
I do have quite a few shares of stock in my company's esop program that I am fully vested in. The amount I have could take us through a year of bills if needed (even though that is not what I would want to do with that because that should be for the future).
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:31pm

So, if you don't need it, why bother to have it now?


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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:31pm
No, she lives out of state but I never mentioned her to watch my son.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:32pm
You are right. And I believe the same poster has said her dh & her rarely go out together, without kids, because of not having family nearby to have babysit and due to the cost of paying for a babysitter. Now, she can rely on all these people for whenever she needs them, for job hunting. No problem!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:34pm
Because it literally costs me $2/week to have 3x my salary in life insurance.

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