? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:34pm

Have you figured the taxes you would have to pay on u/e?

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:35pm

Me? We have 2 people that regulary babysit for us. No, we do not pay them (a friend and sister) as they don't pay us when we watch their children.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:36pm
I am speaking after taxes. It would be almost the same.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:37pm

If that's true, then why would you give up that type of coverage, why not just continue to pay for

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Ducky

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:37pm

be prepared for that to change as they get older.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:39pm
Because I wouldn't be at the job anymore to get it :)
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:40pm

A weekly u/e check is about the same as your current income after taxes.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:41pm
Have you ever gotten unemployment? My dh has and the check has the taxes taken out of them already. I am comparing my current check at work and an unemployment check (after taxes taken out) and they would be almost the same.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:43pm

Yes, I have.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:45pm
Well when my dh got unemployment, they were. Where did you pay taxes to then if they weren't deducted?

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