? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:52pm

When we filed our taxes, after the first of the year.


I was just reading on the IRS site, and it said you can opt to have taxes deducted.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:56pm
I never heard of that but it must be true if you did it that way :) I hope to never find out :)
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 6:59pm

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Ducky

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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:00pm

Hey, I just remembered, you never told me if you did graduate the same year as me in 1989.

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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:01pm
That actually varies from state to state.

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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:02pm
I am not speaking of yearly taxes. I am speaking of federal taxes that come out of your check (work or unemployment) per week. When we get unemployment in NY State, federal taxes is taken out already for you so your max of $405/week would be less.
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:04pm
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:04pm

I have to chime and say that I don't pay for my medical insurance either -- it's 100% covered by the theater -- if Liza were on it i would pay for her but her dad covers her. I also don't pay for my disability insurance or my life insurance, the only one I pay for is my dental insurance.

we may make next to nothing but our benefits ROCK

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:05pm

The federal taxes that are deducted from your check are payments against the taxes you owe at the end of the year.


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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:05pm
when I got unemployment my taxes were taken out from my check .
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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