? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:05pm

Heres some info.

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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:08pm

Is that state or federal?


My experience is only in two states, but both were the same.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:08pm

To tell you the truth, I am not too worried about that. The range for the last year was $20-$55/share and I have quite a few shares. I am not rolling in the money but it is some nice extra money for the future.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:08pm
in NH it's federal only b/c we don't have state income tax..... hee
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:10pm

I am speaking of federal taxes that come out of your check (work or unemployment) per week.


Exactly.

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:10pm
That is great. When my dh was in a union many years ago, we had free medical and dental too.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:11pm

But, if you lost your job, you would be responsible for those things, would you not?


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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:11pm
NY only takes out federal and not state taxes on u/e checks.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:13pm

abso freakin lutely -- which is why I also have a disability policy of my own that I pay for AND a life insurance policy of my own that I pay for just in case I lost the other two I would just probably focus on health insurance and brush my teeth alot until I could afford dental again.

when I left the Writers project I made a deal with them to pay 3 months of my health insurance premiums as part of my um..goodbye package...

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 11-22-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:14pm

Honestly, I don't remember if they deduct state taxes or not.


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