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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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We don't have state taxes currently (where we lived when dh collected), but we did at the time that I collected u/e.
Apparently, in some states, they deduct
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Ducky
- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.
Yes. We. Did.
That's alright, I was just curious.
When I collected, (ages ago, lol) we lived in a state that had state and fed income tax.
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Ducky
Yeah, I remember the olden days, when interviewees used to bring in their little job search log books for me to sign.
Dh only received a handful of rejection letters.
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Ducky
"Using* friends and family as free dc b/c one doesn't want to pay (or plan for) that expense is irresponsible, imo."
Confession: I have (while I was in school) and still am (at least I will if I ever get an interview). I admit it is irresponsible, and I have felt quite a bit of guilt about it. We have purchased gifts, even a vacation, as a thank you and it is our full intention to repay our parents for the free service before we do anything remotely luxurious ourselves. We checked in every week to verify the arrangement was still okay, and suggested repeatedly that we go to day care instead. But in my family, it's pretty typical. My grandmother watched me as an infant, while my parents were starting their careers, and we plan to do the same for our kids.
edited to clarify: I saw some clarifications in your later posts, and I was not using them for full-time. It was about 18 hours a week.
Edited 3/25/2008 7:54 pm ET by ka032006
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