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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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I am. I graduated in December, took the bar in February. I started out looking for public interest, but when even those were few and far between, and highly competitive, I started branching out to anything that sounded remotely interesting. It is a very tedious process. I've heard it gets better after bar results are out (assuming I pass), so I'm praying for that.
Good luck to your DH, too, if he's searching. Everyone I know who is engaged in job search right now is feeling beat down and discouraged--it's not an easy time for your ego. At least not in the current economy. Every other time I've ever engaged in job search, it was a fun and short process. This has been brutal. Perhaps because I took an unconventional approach, spending my summers having babies instead of internships.
Edited: I finally made it through the whole thread, and see that your DH's job search was in the past tense. Not sure if it was recent, but congrats to him, I hope it was exactly what he was looking for!
Edited 3/25/2008 8:05 pm ET by ka032006
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Okay, we have similar ideas of what it means to actively look for work. So why can't she be on the internet, looking through the paper, polishing her resume and tweaking it, and making follow-up calls while her child in kindergarten, and then swapping evening babysitting for daytime babysitting so that she can go on interviews (I'm assuming most employers don't interview at night)?
Knock on wood I won't have to find a new job anytime soon-lol!!
My dd's room is 10x8 and fits a twin bed, dresser, desk w/hutch and chair, as well as a lounging chair in the corner for reading.
Exactly, one doesn't go to job interviews with a child.
PumpkinAngel
My parents are more than happy to watch my boys, if they are available.
PumpkinAngel
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