? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:56pm
We don't pay for babysitting services for my friend, sister. We watch their children in return. I have only paid once for a sitter-for my dh and I
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 7:57pm

I am. I graduated in December, took the bar in February. I started out looking for public interest, but when even those were few and far between, and highly competitive, I started branching out to anything that sounded remotely interesting. It is a very tedious process. I've heard it gets better after bar results are out (assuming I pass), so I'm praying for that.

Good luck to your DH, too, if he's searching. Everyone I know who is engaged in job search right now is feeling beat down and discouraged--it's not an easy time for your ego. At least not in the current economy. Every other time I've ever engaged in job search, it was a fun and short process. This has been brutal. Perhaps because I took an unconventional approach, spending my summers having babies instead of internships.

Edited: I finally made it through the whole thread, and see that your DH's job search was in the past tense. Not sure if it was recent, but congrats to him, I hope it was exactly what he was looking for!




Edited 3/25/2008 8:05 pm ET by ka032006
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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 8:14pm

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Okay, we have similar ideas of what it means to actively look for work. So why can't she be on the internet, looking through the paper, polishing her resume and tweaking it, and making follow-up calls while her child in kindergarten, and then swapping evening babysitting for daytime babysitting so that she can go on interviews (I'm assuming most employers don't interview at night)?

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 8:28pm

Knock on wood I won't have to find a new job anytime soon-lol!!


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Registered: 04-22-2005
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 8:54pm
Yeah, no kidding! Just because it's possible doesn't mean it wouldn't stink big time to have to actually do it!
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 9:04pm
So true!!! I know that life is not perfect and things happen but we are trying to save so we won't be stuck in a bad situation if something happens. I have been in the workforce, without any breaks (except for maternity leave) for 18 years. I have built up experience so I can find something out there if needed.
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Registered: 03-27-2000
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 9:54pm

My dd's room is 10x8 and fits a twin bed, dresser, desk w/hutch and chair, as well as a lounging chair in the corner for reading.

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 10:50pm
How beautifully ironic it is, for *you* to complain about someone else saying things that are uncalled for. LOL... At least Tina is still on her first username, rather than her 5th.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Tue, 03-25-2008 - 11:02pm

Exactly, one doesn't go to job interviews with a child.


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Tue, 03-25-2008 - 11:07pm

My parents are more than happy to watch my boys, if they are available.

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