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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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See that would bother me....I like my children having a grandparent, aunt, uncle cousin relationship with their relatives...I don't want them to have a care giving relationship instead.
PumpkinAngel
The reality is if your money earns more in other vehicles than it does in real estate, with the cost of renting included, (tax breaks inclusive) then its better to rent than own. There are situations like this around the world regularly. We are just "sold" on the dream of home ownership in the US. Its not always the best fiscal decision.
Yes you did, you limited the childcare deducted from a paycheck (aka flex spending) to the next 5 months, I didn't....heck, my kids are a heck of a lot older and we are still paying for daycare (through payroll deductions)
PumpkinAngel
I feel really weird that my mother watches my baby while I'm in class (after all, she's a grandma not a nanny), but she actually gets offended if I start talking about putting him in daycare. She starts saying things like "He's too young for daycare" and "Am I doing something wrong? Why don't you want to let me take care of him?", etc. Not that I'm complaining! I am THRILLED to know that my boy is in the hands of such a loving and capable woman. But it feels weird to have un-paid childcare, and I won't even go into the reaction I got when I suggested paying her for her time and effort, LOL.
Honestly, I think she feels like she wasn't a very good mother to me when I was little (she makes reference to this idea a lot), simply through lack of knowledge and experience since I was her first child, and I think she's trying to make it up to me vicariously through my son. I keep telling her that she was and is a GREAT mom, but she still acts like she's full of guilt for not being a "better" mom. Sigh. Why are so many of us so hard on ourselves so often?
Interesting.
PumpkinAngel
But you would have to sell the stock,
PumpkinAngel
Good point...and not to mention for trips to Port Jefferson on a regular basis to check out restaurants.
PumpkinAngel
But again, you still have to sell the stock to receive the income and of course pay the tax for selling the stock, if there is a gain.
That is quite a swing for stock price.
PumpkinAngel
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