? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:02am
You can get the same tax deductions by buying an RV or a boat, as long as it has the ability to cook, some device to go to the bathroom and a place to sleep. My brother rented while a Marine for years and years and qualified for the home mortgage deduction on his boat. You don't have to own real estate for those tax deductions.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:03am

I think it depends on the age of the child.

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:18am

I have to say - my mom watches my daughter full time during the week, and though dd is still a baby, she's still VERY spoiled by grandma.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:23am

I don't mean to make it sound like I think doing so is wrong in all cases.

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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:35am

When do bar results come out?

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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:38am

That assumes there are people available during the day to babysit.

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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:43am
Well, as Anthony Bourdain would tell you, you can't go wrong adding bacon. :)

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:44am

I know that life is not perfect and things happen but we are trying to save so we won't be stuck in a bad situation if something happens. I have been in the workforce, without any breaks (except for maternity leave) for 18 years. I have built up experience so I can find something out there if needed.


Hope that works for you, b/c it doesn't always work out that way for everyone.

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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:47am

WHAT!?!?!?!?!


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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:51am

You know, I would love if my mil could watch my kids.

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