? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:53am

Taxes?

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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 12:57am

Kind of reminds me of my first apartment. I lived in a 2 bedroom apartment over my landlady's unit (her section of the house also had access to the cellar and from there to the barn where she raised rabbits and chickens. It was a great apartment and she was the best landlady, even if she didn't speak a word of English. The rent was ~$185/mo plus utilities (which usually ran about $35, depending on the conversion rate).

The only downside was the damn rooster who crowed any damn time of the day he felt like it. And the flies. The hoards of flies--LOL. None of the windows had any screens so I would just spray all the window sills with Raid before I left for work in the morning and vacuum up the bodies in the evening when I got home. :) I quickly learned to take the garbage back to post with me EVERY morning :)

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 1:36am
Exactly.
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 1:38am
:::snort::: My boss is just shaking his head but he noted that "Good thing she only wants the net pay..."

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"BTW, I hate Lifetime. Their movies will suck you in and all of a sudden you've watched 3 in a row, used every tissue in t

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 5:33am

yeah, because we know how easy the commute is from LI to CT and vice versa, LOL!!!!

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 6:44am
That's just fodder for my theory that CT isn't REALLY part of New England at all ;-)
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 6:54am

"We can plan, but when faced with the reality of some really tough decisions, priorities can change, and what we once thought we would do, may no longer an option."

I have been very fortunate, personally, but having met many people who faced really, really tough times, I say you are absolutely correct. IME, those who have been the most judgmental can find themselves faced with circumstances in which the best choice available to them is one they had once adamantly insisted they would never make. Sad how in some cases they let the pride, or a strict adherence to principle, stand in the way of their family's future.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:05am

That's fantastic that he loves his job. I hope the rest of the year passes without a hitch. It sounds like your family has come out of the situation stronger, and that says a lot about you, as individuals and as a family.

Bar results come out in April, I'm told. As much as the job search has deflated my ego, there are bright sides. My DH is encouraging me to pursue fiction writing. It's been a hobby of mine for a long time, and he believes I could turn it into a career. I'm not sure I share that belief. While I have the imagination, my creative writing skills are not quite where I think they should be. Anyway, the lack of a job has put me in a position where there is no reason not to work on all of those unfinished projects. So who knows? Where God closes a door, He opens a window, right?

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:15am

well then maybe we can just "disqualify"

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:25am

Oh, admit it; you're just a wannabe ;)

You know, like Maryland is "the south" ;)

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Edited 3/26/2008 7:25 am ET by puss_bouquet

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