? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:29am

The fantasy is all yours, M2PF.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:32am
< The fantasy is all yours, M2PF.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:35am

Right back at you, Campbelllover!

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:44am
Yeah . . . my parents are pretty much always available.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:52am

In most of these families, the care giving results in really close relationships between the kids and the family member who watches them. I think there is plenty of room for too much sugar, too much TV, and taking them shopping within a care giving grandparent's relationship with his or her grandchildren. Will a grandparent who cares for his or her grandkids be able to do those things as often as a grandparent who doesn't? It depends, but I would wager that since the grandparent will probably see the kid a greater number of hours each week there would be time enough for both candy and vegetables.

That being said, when DH goes back to work full time, we will most likely seek paid non-family childcare. Although I'll probably run into the same problem as Finally_me. "Aren't I taking good enough care of Samantha?" "You don't really want her in daycare, do you?" etc.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:56am
I think you missed that we go to the place that serves the $1 hamburgers when we go into port-lololol!!! :)
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 7:57am

Hmmmm.....I just sold alot more stock last year and had NO problem with taxes-shrug?

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Registered: 12-07-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 8:06am
My MIL babysits a lot for Samantha. She's the only grandchild on that side. She works full time, but takes off quite a bit to walk up to our house and play with Samantha. Also, when DH has to tutor during the day, she often takes off to babysit. And despite the fact that sometimes we use her quite a bit for child care, it still isn't enough for her. She tells us we need to go out on dates fairly regularly so she can babysit.
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 8:16am

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 8:22am
Too funny!

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