? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:08am

How many decades has it been since that happened in other parts of the world?

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:10am

Are the apartments in you experience without any green spaces?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:10am

n/t


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:11am

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That's how I feel about it. I don't consider it mooching or irresponsibility to ask for help in times of crisis. If I'm unemployed and desperately trying not to lose the house, and my savings & unemployment check are enough to keep the mortgage afloat, but not enough to pay for mortgage AND childcare, then I don't see what's so horrible and irresponsible of asking friends and family to watch the kids occasionally while you interview to get back on your feet. Plan A is to pay for daycare, but when the crap hits the fan (as in the scenario we've been discussing in this thread), it simply might not be possible.

Personally, that's what I consider my role as a daughter, sister, friend, etc to be - someone that you can call upon in times of need. If I'm available but they have to pay me to help, then what good am I in a financial pinch? Heck, even if they're NOT in a financial pinch! It's called DOING A FAVOR! ;-)

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:12am
Even when I lived in

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:14am
No I'm not fantasizing.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:14am

Which of course contradicts her post stating that she has had a lot of experiences, because as you just pointed out...she hasn't had a lot of experiences.


Thanks for firming up ducky's point.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:15am

Yes, apartment buildings generally don't have yards.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:18am
Me too.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:18am
Yes we have been saving but this has boosted us up. We had our kitchen done last year.

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