? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:28am

Hmmm-don't remember ever saying since I was married (maybe you can find it for me though) even though we did take half our wedding money for savings and the other half saved for the downpayment on our house.

We have saved through the years since we got married but there have been times when things were very tight and we couldn't.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:28am
<Me:

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:28am

During the weekday?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:29am
The stock money was mine since I was a child. We sold it to remodel our kitchen.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:29am
Incorrect about what? I did look back....
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:30am

What you said was incorrect.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:31am
Nah I don't care to prove whether you've said you are married to your dh even though you have talked about how long you have been married and talkin this same post that you are.

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:32am

True.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:33am

Can you explain *tight* please?

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:35am
So having family and friends living in different places and learning their experiences are not included? Traveling since I was a child doesn't help either?

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