? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:35am

I grew up on a 100 acre island with more green space that you probably can imagine -- (and blue

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:36am
I have in the past.
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:36am

Not if you can't understand that everyone and everyone's experiences are different....then no.


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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:37am
Mostly at night and weekends but I have watched my friends daughter when she had no school and she had to work.
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:38am
WHAT was incorrect? I am not following you. She was speaking of going to a town and going to restaurants.
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:38am
Yes many people learn about experiences that way.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:38am
Ok, I am NOT following you here. When you find that post, let me know :)
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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:39am

Why are you assuming that all of her friends and family work M-F 9-5? I have about 30 people that I could call on *right now* if I needed help on short notice, and over half of them are either SAHMs, work part time, work odd or evening hours, or are retired. I'm pretty certain that one of them would be able and happy to say yes to "Can you watch Joe for a couple of hours tomorrow while I go on this interview?"

I know that this is not the case with many people, but financial planning is not the only way to plan for a financial crisis. There is also social networking and relationship-building.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:39am

At a moments notice?

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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:41am
I would rather not get into my personal things, like yourself, but it has been tight at times.

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