? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:51am

:You are right. And I believe the same poster has said her dh & her rarely go out together, without kids, because of not having family nearby to have babysit and due to the cost of paying for a babysitter. Now, she can rely on"

This???

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:52am

I'm active in a service-oriented church as well and have some family in the city, I still don't know 30 people who have nothing planned on a daily basis that could pop over and

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:54am

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I never said that. I said that out of those 30, I can almost certainly find ONE person who is willing and able to help at any given time if I was in a crisis. And a few of those are close enough to me that they would take the day off from work to help if things were that desperate.

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:54am

here's what I'm not getting... have ou watched that Bravo Show the Real Housewives of New York City?

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:54am
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:54am

Um, no.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:55am
Having 2 children in care for a limited amount of time and you have cut everything down you could (including cable :).
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:55am

I would hope so!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:56am

We aren't talking a crisis though.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 10:57am
So, why are you correcting her? You just confirmed that you did, in fact, start saving on your wedding day.

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