? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:06am
Because I've lived in apartments!
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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:07am

We love public playgrounds.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:07am
Cabrini Green could only chartiabely be called an apartment complex -- now you're at the level of public project housing which is a whole other discussion.... you and I both know that residents of Cabrini green would be delighted to be living in an apartment complex that didn't regularly play host to gang violence -- an

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:08am

We are talking about finding last minute child care for a job interview, how that morphed into a crisis and or desperation, I'm not sure.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:10am

Wouldn't a person *plan* for having those kids in care?


Why would they have more kids than they could afford care for?

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Ducky

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Registered: 08-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:11am

It's not about poverty.

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:12am
You don't consider it a crisis to be unemployed and trying to find a job so that you can keep your house, and the only thing that stands in the way of finding a job is finding someone to watch your child on short notice so that you can go on the interview?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:12am

If the complex of condo's has open space and a pool....why wouldn't you think that a complex of apartments also has open spaces and a pool?


PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:14am

As I hae posted numerous times here -- we had a big yard that we never used -I preferred to take her to public playgrounds

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 11:16am

I do, but that isn't the situation that has been debated.


RLGT has clearly stated that her house wouldn't be in jeopardy, that they could live on UE for awhile plus her dh's salary, moving the health care from one to the other and such....it was a pretty matter of fact statement that losing a job and looking for another one while have a child at home full time wasn't a crisis or hardship, let alone what you are describing.


PumpkinAngel

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