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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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If you are talking about one interview, then that could work.
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Ducky
I'm known to play with my kids on playgrounds and such.
PumpkinAngel
- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.
Yes. We. Did.
"Many have been arguing there's no universal benefit to owning over renting. Do you agree? If so, how do you reconcile that with owning your own home when there's nothing missed out on by renting?"
No, not at all. On the contrary it was claimed that ownership was universally advantageous from a financial POV, which led several people to give exceptions to that rule, either in terms of individual circumstances (the ever moving family, for example) or in terms of more general circumstances obtaining in a particular economy.
In addition it was claimed in various guises that once children were added to a family, home ownership and having a yard were sensible or necessary or that the lack of these constituted neglect. This was countered by people pointing out that:
1. Renting does not necessarily mean renting a tiny apartment with no access to outdoor space.
2. Owning does not necessarily mean space or a yard.
3. Kids can grow up perfectly well without living in a house or apartment with a yard attached.
This started out for days as a general debate about home ownership and kids.
- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.
Yes. We. Did.
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