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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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when I was out of my job at the Writers Project I had about six weeks off where I was looking for my next job and I kept Liza in her day camp for 3 days a week to give me time to job hunt -- so it's not that bizarre a notion to keep the childcare while out of work if you can swing it.
- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.
Yes. We. Did.
Yes it is, she clearly stated in at least three posts that it is up to the employer, when it is clearly not.
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PumpkinAngel
I'm so confused now, LOL!
So I guess you would be the person to ask this of: When you said that the UE check would be "enough", what were you referring to? Enough for what? Maybe that'll clear this up a tiny bit.
Exactly what I quoted.
PumpkinAngel
I never said anything about whether or not you used absolutes, or whether or not you think home ownership is generally or universally advantageous. You apparently had difficulty reconciling the statement that
"there's no universal benefit to owning over renting."
with the fact that PKA owns her house. (In your words:"how do you reconcile that with owning your own home when there's nothing missed out on by renting? ").
I was merely explaining that the statement that there is no universal benefit to owning over renting in no way implies that an individual, such as PKA, would not be missing out on anything by renting. Therefore, there is nothing to reconcile.
Fwiw, stating that "there is no universal benefit to owning over renting" also in no way, shape or form implies or suggests that "renting is apparently and generally just as adventageous (sic)". Perhaps you could quote anyone who has made the latter claim? I personally can't think of anyone, but I freely admit I haven't read every post in this thread.
For the record (if it helps), I am more than happy to state that 1) there is no universal benefit to owning over renting, and 2) we currently own our home because it is more advantageous for us to own at this time; we have rented in the past when it was more advantageous for us to rent.
Why are you bashing RLGL?
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