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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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It's situational. Why is that so hard to get? In some situations, it's better to own. In other situations, it's better to rent. I own because none of the situations that make renting preferable currently apply to me.
Some situations that make renting preferable:
1)frequent job-related moves
2)a great school district with homes I couldn't afford to buy but an apartment complex I COULD afford to rent in
3)financial downturn
If/when any of these things apply to me, I will rent rather than own.
Why is this so hard to understand?
Actually because RLGL stated this in the post 1629she replied to: <<I am telling her from my experience in knowing others who have been fired before that it all depends on the company if they want you to get benefits or not. <<
It doesn't depend on the company, the company doesn't decide, the state does.
PumpkinAngel
There were some posts in the 500s that started this debate. Basically, smellarat made some rude comments about ducky living in an apartment, and that living in an apartment when you had kids was really bad. Many other posters got on to say that there was nothing wrong with living in an apartment when you had kids.
By the time you entered the debate, the posts by smellarat had been deleted. I can understand why you entered this debate thinking it was a debate over whether home ownership was generally better, but for the people who had been participating since the first post by smellarat, the debate was characterized more as whether there were EVER times that living in an apartment with children was a better choice than owning a home. I know IMO, the debate was never about which was generally better, only whether home ownership, with kids, was always better. And I strongly believe that it is not ALWAYS the better choice.
Only myopic, unsophisticated people make it a point of trying to bash others.
Yes. We. Did.
You didn't state that it was an emergency, you clearly stated that you could live on UE for months without having to find a job.
PumpkinAngel
I did give
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I'm sure it varies from state to state....but here is NY
http://www.labor.state.ny.us/ui/claimantinfo/onceyouhaveappliedfaq.shtm#12
PumpkinAngel
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