? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:16pm
It was an honest question. You have stated otherwise here and elsewhere your age and year of graduation. Why is it such a hard question to answer?
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:16pm

Don't know what?


Are you reading this thread?

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Ducky

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:16pm

<Oooooooooohhhhhhhh! Don't tell me, Sherlock Holmes discovered another tantalizing clue! Of what, nobody is very sure, but never no mind. Now you have to do us the favor of posting a link to this vile lie of a post. >


OUCH!!!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:16pm
i understand. but it needs to stray in the correct direction? preferably one that the majority on this board agrees with, not yours and tinders?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:17pm
I am pretty sure that she means that since she does not know your exact age, she has no way of telling you whether you are the same age.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:18pm
Well lets see, I graduated h.s. in 1989, born in 1971-18 + 19 years will make me 37 this summer.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:19pm
She already told you that she got married at 24. Since you got married at the same age, I guess you can tell us if you think that is marrying young. Some people graduate HS early and some graduate late. Graduation year is not a surefire way to calculate someone's age.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-19-2008
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:19pm
so what does that mean?
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:19pm

You didn't ask her any of those questions in the post she responded to, she only answered the one you asked.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:19pm

Knock knock, anyone home?


I've answered your probing, and ridiculous, and off topic questions, several times now.

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Ducky

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