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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:44pm
I really enjoy your debating tactic.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:45pm
She is one year older than you. Maybe, just maybe, she graduated at 19 instead of at 18. You know, wild stuff like that.
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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:48pm

or maybe I lied.


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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:55pm

oh

PumpkinAngel

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:56pm
Yes, of course, lol. It is terribly important to shave a year off one's age. You have often struck me as a person who would really care about that. BTW, back in the homeland kids start school a year older than their US counterparts. As a result it is the norm to graduate HS when you are 19 or about to turn 19. Still, I had friends who graduated at 20, 21 and 22 even, as well as a friend who graduated at 17. Maybe that is why I never thought of graduation year as a good age indicator.
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Registered: 07-18-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 3:58pm

Or maybe she graduated at 17. Or maybe she was a prodigy and graduated at 12.

Yeah well, that's just, ya know, like, your opinion, man-The Big Lebowski 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:02pm

Can I play?


Hi I'm Katie, 42, graduated HS 1984, college 1988, married 1989, divorced 2004

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:04pm

I did that on purpose.

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Ducky

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Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:05pm

Me, me!


Hi I'm Felicia, 42, graduated HS 1983, college 1986, married 1996

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Wed, 03-26-2008 - 4:06pm

Actually I'm an author, my age has no bearing.

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