? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 1:07pm
There are a group of us on my playgroup who met 6+ years ago.

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Registered: 05-02-2006
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 1:51pm

To me, it sounds like these comments are coming from a "grass is always greener" point of view.

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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 2:17pm

Hi!

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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 2:35pm
Oh yes there are. I never really watch TV EXCEPT while I'm in that post baby breast feeding haze for the two weeks or so after birth. I watched some show called "wife swap" where there was a "work a holic" mom; who switched with a ever so domestic goddess "home maker." It was rife with every cliche and extreme of the whole SAH/ WOH debate. Pretty funny. Not bad to watch when sleep deprived!
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 2:47pm
Liza and I LOVE Wife swap -- it's one of our guilty pleasures :-)
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 2:56pm
Well I got nearly addicted to the "Real Beverly Hills Housewives" if that's any better;) LOL!!!
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 3:12pm
Ooh ooh have you seen the previews for the manhattan version? FABULOUS!!!
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 01-23-2008
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 4:09pm
I am a SAHM myself, and I can't believe these women said that to you! Obviously it would make you feel bad, and if that was the intent then I would steer clear of these people. You don't need that negativity in you life.

  


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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 4:29pm

Oh, you'll need a thick skin to do the mom thing!

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Registered: 03-31-2003
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 4:34pm

You know what I am finding, though? Now that we have hit the school years, I am finding that people seem to back off the competition a little.

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