? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 12-29-2004
Wed, 03-05-2008 - 5:21pm
It's a gradual process; more and more of us start to see the Mommy Olympics more realistically and we're not so quick to judge.
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 6:27pm
Yes and sadly --- I'm hooked. I'll be TiVo'ng those too!!! LOL.
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Wed, 03-05-2008 - 11:17pm

Then there is the flip side. The mom who has the "my kid beat up the Student of the Month" bumper sticker on her car. That's the mom I want to be friends with.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 1:45am
I was behind a car at the Wendy's drive-thru, with a bumper sticker that said, "My Min Pin is smarter than your Honor Student." :)

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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 6:20am

Yes and in the commercials they state that the soccer moms have given up their dreams to "raise their families".

Lori

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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 7:13am
While I, as a adult, see the humor in it, I absolutely abhor the message. Kids don't need to read a statement condoning violence. Bullying is a real problem and should not be encouraged.
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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 8:13am
I totally agree.
Jess


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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 8:17am
Me too.
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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 8:51am
ROFL!
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Thu, 03-06-2008 - 10:04am

LOL Love that one.

Chris

The truth may be out there but lies are in your head. Terry Pratchett

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