? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:33am

you should have saved that money to buy your children a house.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:33am
how was work last night at the bookstore, did you make lots of sales?
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Registered: 03-09-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:35am
You are not debating.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:35am
very, very selective.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:36am
gravy, butter, salt, no good for you.
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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:36am

It was pretty good thanks for asking -- there's an independent movie theater next to the bookstore so right before and right after show times the store gets quite crowded and it's alot of fun then it gets pretty quiet for the last hour and I vacuum and dust :-)

 

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:39am
sounds interesting, is it a used book store or a barnes and noble border type place?
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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:41am
that's right....GOOD sarcasm is like good cholesterol....

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:42am
I KNOW!

 

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:43am
nope it's a small independent bookseller located next to a neat little bakery cafe on one side and the movie theater on the other... we have author events, book groups, and in a small city you are almost guaranteed to see people you konw in there any time you go in. I love it.
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