? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:56am
i see it in my newspaper all the time. especially in pennysaver ads.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:56am

oh no i"m the first to bow in appreciation of really well used sarcasm....it's the lazy kind I object to... doesn't matter who uses it . but I also object to someone thinking the use of the word chick is sarcasm... cuz....not so much .

 

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:58am

it's subjective, really. if you like the person, it's good sarcasm, if you don't it's lazy sarcasm.


personally i consider your sarcasm lazy, as it's the same old same old

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:58am

the one that was on Oprah? That guy? Who wrote the book about that thing?


yeah we have that.

"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:58am

<on both ends, no? >


I hate to sound 5 years old about it but you started it.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:59am
Well, I'm not surprised you find it in the Pennysaver. You kind of made my point for me. Thanks.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:00pm

I said, "If you say so." It may be used where you are. Where I lived, in the US, the term was going out of use ten years ago, when I last worked there.

Whether it is commonly used or not, my main point was that it is not a "glorified secretary." A glorified secretary would be an "executive assistant," not a "girl Friday."

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:00pm
pennysaver and newspapers. oops, you left that part out.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:01pm
it's gal friday, not girl.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:01pm

yeah well watcha gonna do...

 

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