? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:02pm
have to go and type up a docket for my boss, brb
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:02pm
Do you seriously think that it is neglect to bring up your children in a small apartment? Most New Yorkers, Athenians, Copenhagerners, Parisians and Londoners, to name a few, with kids would probably disagree with you.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:03pm

<read aback thru the threads, she was harrassing me for an answer >


I far from call her post harrasment.

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:08pm

<because sticking your what? 5 kids in a small apt. is neglect. let the kids run around and breathe fresh air in their own home.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:16pm
Do you work for a Court?
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:19pm
Paralegal apparently.
iVillage Member
Registered: 07-17-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:29pm
Okay, but IME, "docket" is generally used to describe a court's schedule. A paralegal working for an attorney may prepare a brief or an abstract, but the docket is "published" by the court.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:38pm
I wouldn't know, but I am happy to take your word for it. The poster mentioned that she was a paralegal, although she did not elaborate on her work situation.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 12:50pm
she also could work for a paper :)

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 1:03pm

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I *do* teach at the local community college 10 hours a week, and I don't use daycare for my 7-month-old. Just thought I'd throw that out there. You couldn't teach evening, weekend, or online classes (since you said you prefer to work)?

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