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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Why oh why in this country if you don't have a 3 to 4 bedroom home are you cramped....grrr.
- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.
Yes. We. Did.
I have the same amount of room I discussed in the first post 1090 sq feet upstairs and the same in the basement...but you said it was too small in the first post.
Yes. We. Did.
This is not meant as debate, but I just wanted to tell you what I wish someone had told me--having two kids in a two-bedroom house can be really, really frustrating. I think I'm generally pretty good at handling pressure and finding creative solutions, but this challenge has defeated me. I just spent the morning begging my DH, in tears, to buy a new house with 3 or 4 bedrooms. And I used to love our house--it's an older house, ton of character, we did a lot of work on it. I hate it now. My second (now 9 months) has been a terrible sleeper from day one. Which means the whole house is disrupted on a regular basis. My toddler even tells his brother to "shut up" (my mom has fessed up to using that phrase).
I started to type out the gory details, but decided against it. If you want to hear the potential pitfalls, page me in the personal section below.
edited to clarify: I am in no way saying that kids should be raised in a 3 or 4 bedroom house, or anything of the kind. My comments are absolutely not meant to be judgmental. I wish so badly I could make our two-bedroom house work. I know there are other people who do. I just meant in case you wanted to hear some of the issues we've run into.
Edited 3/20/2008 2:47 pm ET by ka032006
don't. i never said anything about her situation, i said people that live in apartment's are doing a disservice to their children. >
You really believe that apartments do a disservice to children...what a crock.
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