? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:53pm

I have fond memories of my first apartment in college, the hallways always smelled of curry.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:54pm
I guess I want to stay where I am for other reasons.

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Registered: 07-12-2005
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:54pm
I don't have any philosophical view against having kids share a room. Opposite sex or not. If my youngest was as good a sleeper, I'd stay in this house forever. My point is just that it can be difficult.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:56pm

< actually i think it' snot healthy when parents put

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:56pm

In my college apartment our landlady's sister in law lived on the first floor and we never saw her out of her bathrobe and curlers - she'd sit in her window smoking all day long and then watch home shopping network all night with the volume turned up to the rafters.... but if we got too loud she'd come into our apartment without knocking and scream SHUDDDUP you G*D*mn

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:58pm
you believe it's a crock, i don't. what makes you better than me?
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:59pm
if you're donald trump, your apartment isn't small, if you joe or jane schmo, chances are your apt. is small.
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 2:59pm
when was the last time you smelled curry?
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:00pm
LOL, I have not lived in a house since I left my parent's house at age 18. Ditto for my two brothers. I don't think any of us has any intention ever to live in a house. We all remember so well what it was like.
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:01pm

Where did I say i was "better" than you.


What I do see different is I don't thinks space defines how well or now well you are caring for your children.

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