? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:01pm
That would really depend what you mean by small. Also, why would it really matter?
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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:02pm
your attitude is that my opinion is not worthy b/c it's not the same as yours.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:02pm

I remember the broom on the ceiling trick, lol.

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:03pm
it would matter if one had a bunch of children to raise in that small of a space.
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Registered: 08-08-2006
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:04pm

I had a apt like that in the northend of Boston (5th floor walkup because the elevator didn't work), but it was an Italian restaurant, of course.

I also shared an apt with 2 others in NYC that was about 400sf, which is about the size of my family room now. It also had 12ft ceilings, so we built a loft sleeping area to increase the size. It was unusual and spacious enough for us at the time.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:05pm
was this before or after istanbul?
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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:10pm

<your attitude is that my opinion is not worthy b/c it's not the same as yours. >


nope.

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Registered: 03-19-2008
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:11pm
assumions?
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:14pm

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:14pm
Originally you claimed that any raising of kids in apartments was tantamount to neglect. Now it is only neglect if the children are plentiful and the space small?

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