? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:16pm
Our first house was 750 sq ft. Three bedrooms. There were (and are) several families on the street with 2 and 3 children living in similarly sized houses.
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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:17pm
Why?
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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:19pm

mmm...I bet that apartment goes for a bundle now!


I still think fondly of the apartment my ex husband and I lived in for years before we bought our house - top two floors of a victorian with basement access for our washer dryer, a huge deck, hardwood floors, dining room, kitchen, living room, two bedrooms, and a finished attic -- oh it was GORGEOUs -it also unfortunately had a lively family of bats living there.... ugh.

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Registered: 07-23-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:24pm

<assumions?

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:45pm

Makes sense, I guess.....I don't know the song, or the group.....I'm not a music person.


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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:51pm

They are quite content with the shoe box.

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Ducky

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:53pm

Here we go with the harassment thing again.

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Ducky

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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:54pm

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Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:54pm
There was an old woman who lived in a shoe . . .
baby in clothes basket
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Registered: 09-04-1997
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 3:57pm
Is it better to live in an apartment with a regular colored door, or a house with a yellow door?

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