? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 5:07pm
You sound like a superb judge of what is right and wrong.
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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 5:16pm
I have an extra bedroom, but my children don't want their own room. They want to stay in the same room... at least for the last 4 years.
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Registered: 09-05-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 5:21pm
No, your opinion is not worthy because you haven't offered any reasoning behind it. "Because I said so" is a terrible debate technique. Not very convincing, at least.
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Registered: 12-07-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 5:51pm
LOL.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 6:40pm

Sure but why *make up* a nanny? We have a nanny. We pay her for 30 hours a week (though she generally works 20-25) and we pay her $13 an hour plus a big yearly bonus.


Our last full time nanny we paide around that plus vacations; benefits and a big yearly bonus.


As I recall PNJ lives in an expensive area. The more expensive the area, generally the more expensive are all services.

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Registered: 07-26-2007
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:20pm
Ironically, Ducky DOES live in a 3 bedroom home. As do I. We both also happen to live in apartments. Ducky's is 1100 sq ft. Mine's a skosh bigger at 1250, but they're both still 3bedroom apartments. And both more than adequate to the task of housing multiple children.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 03-20-2008 - 11:48pm
Oh get real. We pay our part time nanny over 1/2 the median income for families in this country. Some families spend more on *clothing* than double the median income. Different strokes for different economic folks. Drrr.
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Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 4:22am

Can you find one of those classified ads


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Registered: 11-22-2000
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 4:28am
When it used to be advertised in the classifieds, I saw it done both ways, although I actually have seen it referred to more often as "Girl Friday".

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Fri, 03-21-2008 - 6:33am

I have never seen her claim that. I have seen her state that she pays her nanny more than the average salary for nannies.

I have also seen a "newbie" come on and attack her every few months or so - and then disappear. 1st it was about the school her children attend, then it was that she and CLW were the same person. Now it is that she doesn't really have a nanny or the job she says she does. I may have missed a few. Whatever.

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