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| Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am |
My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.
I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)
So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?
Any thoughts are appreciated!

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"We have 4 people in a 3 bedroom house but I could not imagine having 3 kids in one bedroom and then 2 in another and not feeling cramped."
Then maybe the problem is just your lack of imagination. I will freely admit (and already have) I hate having four people and one dog in a two-bedroom house (not because I need more square footage, just because I need a few extra, soundproofed walls), but I can definitely imagine that a family with a quieter dog or a smaller dog, or a calmer dog, and a bunch of good sleepers, or a family who loves noise and hustle and bustle, could make it work.
Oh...now see that would be small compared to our house for four people.
PumpkinAngel
No, no...I can't imagine living in that small of a space, so using your logic, you should find a bigger one, correct?
PumpkinAngel
I don't want to fuel the flames but... it is my understanding that HUD guidelines for housing limit residents to 2 per bedroom.
mmm.... I dunno about that - I think it depends on the landlord, on what kind of housing, etc....
god knows in my college apartment we had way more than that in a bedroom! LOL
- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.
Yes. We. Did.
Edited 3/21/2008 4:01 pm ET by geschichtsgal
what? four female friends couldn't rent a house together?
Yes. We. Did.
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