? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 09-13-2004
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 6:50am

I guess she can say something else then.


I worried a lot when DD was in daycare because she always seemed so stressed when we picked her up, but when we got a nanny I stopped worrying.

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Registered: 12-10-2007
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 10:22am

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Why do they even care whether other women work or stay home? Its just none of their business. They don't sound very happy with their lives if they are sitting around criticizing others.

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Registered: 03-06-2008
Mon, 03-10-2008 - 7:54pm
I am a 27 year old mom to three beatiful kids a 6 year old girl, a 4 year old girl and a 2 year old boy there was a time I did not work and now I am working when people make comments to me about it I just smile and tell them that my kids are greatly loved that they have an awsome babysitter and that if I didnt have to work I wouldnt but that since I have a husband who is very supportive who cleans bathes the kids and even washes clothes I feel that my kids are ok just let them know that your baby is in good hands and that your

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Registered: 04-17-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 9:53am
That's why I think it's such a sacrifice to be a SAHM, but that's ok. My daughter comes before my career.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 10:33am

Two thumbs down.


You really think parents (DADs too) who WOH are putting their careers before their children????


I WOH in large part for my kids' college education and our retirement, so we don't have to financially depend on our children in our old age.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:01am
To be fair, she was responding to you saying that you'd find it stressful to be around your kids all the time.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:17am
No, she was saying she finds it to be stressful being around her kids all the time, but that's a sacrifice good moms should make to put their children ahead of their careers.

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Registered: 04-14-2003
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 11:22am

well, if you're going to call this poster to task for what you seem to consider a non sequitur, how exactly does it follow that that other poster's logic--"you find it stressful to be with your kids *24/7*, therefore you put your career before your children"--work?


nah, you're right--set the poster who *followed* the one who went totally off-topic and off-logic with bolt-from-the-blue personal insults to task for making an only marginally but still on-topic retort....


you're consistent anyway.

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Mon, 03-17-2008 - 12:50pm

and while my children ALWAYS come first, MANY of us are WELL able to juggle both a career AND parenting.


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Registered: 07-26-2007
Tue, 03-18-2008 - 1:13am
Whatever. I see no benefit to the children of Martyr Mommies.

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