? for working moms

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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 11:57am
O.k., then, you seem to live in an unusual part of the world.
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 12:12pm
Why do you think my head exploded? LOL I've had as many as 7 people jammed in this place for as long as a week and half (we took in some friends from the Eastern Shore during and after Hurricane Isobel), and the condo only has 1250 sq feet of space and 3 bedrooms. Granted it was cozy, but STILL!!! LOL I just have to believe a 4000 sq foot, 4 bedroom home could find room for one baby. Somehow. :)

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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 12:31pm

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That would be awesome if we could, though! I'd scuttle right out of this creepy place, over the fence, and into one of those nice houses across the way.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 2:56pm

My neighbor moved every 3 years and they still had the same mortgage with the newest, most expensive house.

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Registered: 07-17-2007
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 3:14pm

So their mortgage carried over and they paid cash for the difference? Wow, that is impressive.

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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 4:08pm
never used -- or at least not that Ive seen. It indicates gender based hiring. Which isnt legal for a start.
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 4:33pm
Hey, shouldn't be a problem!
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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 4:37pm
Not to mention transactional costs -- broker's fees, new loan fees, movers, etc.
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:17pm
Wow, if I had known that it wouldn't cost me more to move to a bigger home, I would have moved out of this 2-bedroom apartment and into a 3-bedroom house a year ago! LOL After all, we were expecting a baby, and... oh wait, I forgot that I need SIX bedrooms or more to fit one baby, so I get to upgrade from the apartment to a six bedroom house, all without an increase in our disposable income! SCORE!
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Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:18pm

Yes, and personally, I think there's something to be said for families being close

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