? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:28pm

Hey, congrats on the new baby on the way!


And with two kids, I think this is what you will need:


http://www.realtor.com/search/listingdetail.aspx?zp=92014&bd=6&typ=7&sid=62ad3096d66341d8bbe0575b3189943e&lid=1087208585&lsn=7&srcnt=8


Now, the house is gutted at the moment, but that shouldn't be a problem.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:36pm

Yes.


The first house sold for double what they bought it for and the second one sold for triple what they bought it for.

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:36pm

Sorry, misunderstanding - I'm not pregnant again (although we WISH we could afford to be!). When we found out that I was pregnant with #1, we moved from a 1-bedroom to a 2-bedroom apartment. But since we plan on having more eventually, maybe we should just go ahead and move into that beauty of an estate.

Maybe I don't deserve children though. After all, who was it that said that raising my children in an apartment is neglectful? ;-)

Renaissance Siggy



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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:37pm
lololol!!! When the market was good, people were making double and triple on their homes. In the few years they waited to sell, they also got better jobs, increased their businesses and got raises. That helped in paying the higher bills. I know quite a few people who did this years ago and are living fine now in better spaces for their growing families.
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Registered: 04-22-2005
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:39pm
Hey, I KNOW! How about if everyone sends me $1 so that I can afford to move into a house without actually having to do anything to earn it? Yeah, that'll work! (snort)
Renaissance Siggy



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iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:41pm

Oops, sorry!

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:45pm
Well, you know, having your house double or triple doesn't put you closer to affording something that has doubled or tripled right along with yours.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 5:56pm
I never said "alot". If my dh and took our raises for 3 years and had the same mortgage in a larger home, we could afford to pay the extra utilities and taxes. IME people do not plan to stay in one home longer than 5 years so they plan for this move for years.
iVillage Member
Registered: 03-27-2003
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 6:08pm
So you are presently saving to have a few hundred thousand dollars
iVillage Member
Registered: 08-08-2006
Sat, 03-22-2008 - 6:09pm
Yeah there's that and the reason for buying up was they just needed more space for their growing family.

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