? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 1:14am
No she doesn't. In the other thread, she lets Dad off the hook because he has to support them. :::eyeroll:::

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 7:07am

I prefer to think that neither my child nor my career come before the other -- they sort of trot along side one another -- or like those cirucs acts where the plates all spin at once :-)

my daughters my daughter and my career is my career and at adifferent times one of them may need more or less attention and I adjust accordingly --

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Yes. We. Did.

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 12:35pm

That's why I think it's such a sacrifice to be a SAHM, but that's ok. My daughter comes before my career.


You frustrate me incredibly.

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 1:34pm
You know what I tell Liza all the time?

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 2:27pm

I keep telling that to my tween.

PumpkinAngel

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 2:31pm

Hey, Erica is 27 and still believes that the universe revolves around her. But that will change when they get their baby next month. HEE, HEE, HEE :)

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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 3:02pm

Karma, it's a wondeful thing


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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 3:33pm

When I started this post, I was hoping to avoid some of the statements that have been made in the threads...I don't believe that I am putting my career first, and if I were, it is not for anyone to judge. I appreciate the sentiments from those of you who have offered advice and support to that extent, and am pleased that it came from working mothers and stay-at-home mothers alike.

I started this post asking people for advice on how to handle people making such judgements about me and my work/parenting situation. It's ironic that I need to use advice from this discussion to handle comments from this discussion!

Please, please ladies, can we stop the mommy-wars? Let's just agree not to judge each other's decisions, and support each other for a change!




Edited 3/18/2008 3:36 pm ET by mtngrl78
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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 3:40pm
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Tue, 03-18-2008 - 4:11pm

No thanks. It's the purpose of this board to broaden the thinking of posters like daisyfriend.


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