? for working moms

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Registered: 03-31-2006
? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 04-22-2005
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:21pm
Bwahaha! Okay, I knew that this would be interesting, but I just wanted to see it in numbers. If my family decides that we have outgrown our apartment, we can afford to move into a house as long as the house doesn't cost more than $17,000. ROFLOL!
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Registered: 09-05-2007
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:22pm
You still haven't explained why that matters. Prove that it's child abuse, like you said earlier.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:22pm

Um, no that isn't your experience, haven't you lived in the same small house for years?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:24pm

She can't, it doesn't matter and it isn't child abuse...no matter what hazel claims.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:25pm

I have 4 people in the same space (actually larger if

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Registered: 09-05-2007
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:26pm

Well, no, you said this:

"They sold in the time of the highest prices. They waited 3 years in between both homes and made good money so the mortgages were the same."

Which is extremely ambiguous. I realize I read it wrong, but your point still makes no sense. At least if they had waited 3 yrs, it would make sense.

If they sold in the time of the highest prices, then they also BOUGHT in the time of highest prices. If they wanted something bigger, they would have had to pay more, unless they moved out of the area, or bought something in need of a lot of work.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:28pm
Well to help you out a little. There was an article in our newspaper this week. To live on LI and buy the average price of a house at $350,000, you would have to make an income of $147,000/year or higher.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:29pm
I said "child abuse"???? Please quote that for me.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-05-2007
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:30pm
Please explain why what *you* think is acceptable for 7 people makes a lick of difference to anyone but you. I personally lived in 120 sq ft for 1.5 years with 1 child, and it was fine. Is that child abuse? I just think you're spoiled rotten, if you think that we as humans NEED that much space. Spoiled absolutely rotten.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:31pm
I never said "I" have moved or plan to move. IME with friends, family and co-workers they move up to larger homes within 5 years.

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