? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:45pm
lololol!!! When we bought our home, they figured out your mortgage by double your salary. If they did that now, we couldn't buy a one bedroom house-lol!!!
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:49pm
That makes no sense, unless they changed from a 10yr mortgage to a 20yr and then to a 30yr or from a regular mortgage to an interest only.
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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:49pm

I can't either...


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:51pm
It was the rat poster who said that, but since you "sound" a lot like her and she has disappeared, people are getting you mixed up.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:51pm

That's ok if you don't want to answer my question either :)

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Registered: 06-27-1998
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:54pm

Explain how it's relevant to the discussion, you know like my questions have been?

PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:56pm

Please show me a quote that I said this. Otherwise,

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:57pm
She answered you.
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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:57pm

Then why would she say I said this? I am tired of being harassed that I am this other person, when I am not.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 5:59pm

I am not "moving" up because I have adequate space in my home to fit my family and do not plan (or unplan) to have a larger family.


I did mention before I would build up and furnish my basement before I moved anytime in the near future.

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