? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 7:33pm

*You* are being harassed?

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Ducky

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 7:38pm

Yes. Being accused of posting as someone else, absolutely.

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Sun, 03-23-2008 - 7:50pm

Nevermind.


PumpkinAngel

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 7:52pm

no, actually she never said it before because it's never come up before. It really is THAT simple.


eileen

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 7:55pm

we made the decision to do it when child #3 was on the way.

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Sun, 03-23-2008 - 7:58pm
? for working moms

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Registered: 11-08-2006
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 8:00pm

i lucked out that ex quit-claimed on the house and that I was able to refinance at about 6% or so fixed.

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Registered: 10-05-2007
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 8:12pm

No I haven't mentioned kelly's bankruptcy before... but that's ok it never came up and.....


I thought you had mentioned it before.

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Ducky

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Sun, 03-23-2008 - 8:15pm
truthfully I'm not embarrassed at all by her bankruptcy. She's a grown woman who had financial issues that she faced up to in the best way she could at the time. It was tremendously hard on her and I was by her every step of the way. I'm insanely proud of Kelly - and that includes her failings an dher successes. I'm not embarrassed in the least.
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

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Sun, 03-23-2008 - 8:16pm
my ex husband and I were in our starter home for 9 years before we divorced...he's still there four years later with no plans of moving. I don't think people "move up" round here -- b/c it's not that big a deal. We stay put.
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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