? for working moms

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? for working moms
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Mon, 03-03-2008 - 11:08am

My son is six months old, and I have been back to work full time for four weeks.

I became upset over the weekend when two people (who are very close to me) made comments such as: "it seems like it would be so much easier to drop your kids off at daycare and work full time than to stay home", and even worse, "it's clearly easier to work and have someone else raise your kids than stay home". Both were stated by mothers who have never been in the position of working full-time with children. I disagree thoroughly with both comments (my life is certainly NOT easier now that I'm back to work!)

So... without stiring up the hornet's nest that is the "mommy war"... I am curious, how can I respond to statements like this? Should I respond, or just let it go? How long does it take to get over hearing hurtful things like this?

Any thoughts are appreciated!

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 8:26pm

I think that it is great that you supported her throughout everything she went through.


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 8:28pm
I love her. When you love someone you support them and they support you ;-)
one thing I could never ever ever be is embarrassed by Kelly -- except maybe when she wears these really outlandish socks I can't stand.... but other than that...nah...
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 02-08-2008
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 8:44pm

The word "bankrupt" might not have come up but you did say she "got rid of her condo" in the post below. Not sure if you didn't want to use the word "lost" then but it seems it did come up in the past.


THIS is why I question people, sorry :(


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Registered: 03-27-2003
Sun, 03-23-2008 - 10:22pm
I have and never have had anything to hide -- I didn't use the word then but not out of any big plot or scheme to keep it hidden, I probably didn't use it b/c I didn't want to threadjack. She went through bankruptcy. Big deal.
"If gay Americans are not allowed to get married and have all the benefits that American citizens are entitled to by the Bill of Rights, they should get one hell of a tax break. That is my opinion,"

- Jeane "Dear Abby" Phillips, in an interview with Lisa Leff.

 

Yes. We. Did.

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Registered: 10-24-2007
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 12:01am
My parents did the impulse buy of all impulse buys...they were living in the nice, 4-bedroom family home that I grew up in, in a fancy neighborhood in a London suburb (where you don't get much sq. ft for your buck), and they were visiting my grandma in Cumbria, where my mum was born and raised.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:27am
I think it is actually honest confusion.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:28am
I understand that you are upset that this other poster, rat-something, impersonated your style.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:35am

Where I come from it is not the rule either. My father accumulates houses, but he still owns the houses I grew up in and would still be living there if his wife agreed, lol. My grandparents built their house when they married and it was never meant to be sold, although they did eventually (grandma was never happy in the little town where they lived and wanted to move to the big city).

Here in Greece it is also still the norm to buy a place when you get married and stay there either for life or till you hand it over to a kid and move to something smaller. It also means that many people inherit their houses/apartments from their parents and people rarely move from those.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 03-24-2008 - 1:36am
Is there a point you have with that post?
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Mon, 03-24-2008 - 6:44am
Why does any of this matter to you?

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